Dum du-dum dum…Date Night

A date night for new parents requires precious currency: money, time and energy. And a lot of logistics.

Factor in the prep and travel time – while trying not to wonder whether your child, potentially cold, hungry and/or neglected by a vodka-guzzling babysitter, is weeping into a teddy bear drenched in her drool and inconsolable tears.

Fact is, sometimes parents would rather sleep, watch Scandal reruns or take “What breed of a dog are you?” quizzes on Facebook by the glow of the baby monitor and the comforting sound of silence.

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Mama found a job

Recently, I wrote about my post-baby job search and babyproofing a new mom’s interview game.

Within a week and a half of writing the post and changing my approach, I got one job offer, one almost job offer (declined preemptively) and two interview invitations to some pretty cool firms. The point is, these ideas do work.

While getting acclimated at the new job and figuring out that ineffable work-life balance (and curtailing Chipotle takeout dinners), I’ve been taking a short break from The Flying Yenta.

Please stay tuned for more posts, soon forthcoming.


Williams, Stewart and storytelling in journalism and public relations

Two developments in the world of journalism last week got me thinking about storytelling.

Brian Williams, anchor and managing editor of NBC Nightly News, was suspended for falsely claiming his helicopter was hit by a rocket-propelled grenade during the Iraq war. The credibility of the journalist, who’d won multiple awards and increased the network’s viewership, is now at stake.

And Jon Stewart announced that after 17 years of hosting The Daily Show – where despite disavowing the show’s seriousness, he was hailed as a voice of the generation – he plans to step down.

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Five Suggestions for Babyproofing the Job Interview

(A version of this essay appeared in The Washington Post March 19, 2015)

What would you rather pick, a trip to the dentist or a job interview?

I used to be a fan of the interview – and usually did well. You get to dress up, woo strangers into being impressed and talk about yourself.

All that changed after I’d switched careers, had a baby and made the decision to spend the first year at home, taking care of her.

But then, my job search revealed that a root canal might be easier after all.

Moms in my circles, particularly those who didn’t work in a corporate environment, often returned to those same jobs, with flexible hours,  particularly in the health, childcare and primary education industries. A few others have their own businesses, with the flexibility to be an earner and a mom.

I anticipated that my qualifications, with the added bonus of that adorable, curly-haired little girl who talks in Russian gibberish – would also be easy. Continue reading Five Suggestions for Babyproofing the Job Interview

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The “Off” Days — And Nine Bits of Advice

Who doesn’t ever have a bad day? New parents sometimes do, despite this common belief that motherhood is all about sitting at a park in a state of impenetrable jubilation and tickling or nursing (or both) a giggling infant all day long.

Lots has been written about the challenges new mothers face — related to isolation, hormonal changes, transformed relationships, career adjustments, insomnia, body image, those once-swanky outfits that would look comical now, even if they could miraculously stretch and fit. There is a reason these first months and years are often described as “second puberty.” The bad days don’t affect the loving bond a mother develops with her little one and her joy in motherhood. They do matter when it comes to her bond with herself.

Toothpaste for DInner
Toothpaste for DInner

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Surviving New Parenthood in the Digital Age

For new parents, there’s the good and the bad, and then there’s the Internet.

Online resources are a draw especially for that subset who’d spent their lives living in big bad baby-free cities or ran from anything child-related prior to having one. (Or who, like myself, once mistakenly bought a dog outfit for a newborn).


But with discussion forums and blogs, social networks and newsletters, are new parents an overcommunicated bunch? Continue reading Surviving New Parenthood in the Digital Age

Beyond the Haves and Have Nots: The Family Sharing Economy

Did you know that Americans give birth to three percent of world’s kids but buy 40 percent of all the world’s toys?

Photo by Ashley Smith

That’s a lot of toys. Throw in a big home for storage and the mostly overseas labor that goes into manufacturing and shipping, right before the stuff is committed to rot in landfills.

Luckily, the twenty-first century is turning to our ancestors who’d once raised children in proverbial villages and shared. We no longer want to just own, but willingly exchange goods and services.

Spurred by technology and the post-recession economic woes, the peer-to-peer, or sharing economy, has become a household term.

For instance, Airbnb, an online marketplace that since 2008 has enabled regular folk to rent out their homes, now boasts more than a million listings worldwide. The recently embattled Uber has been offering app-based ridesharing services since 2009. And yours truly once borrowed a designer ball gown to meet the POTUS, from Rent the Runway. For cheap. (Yeah, I sent it back).


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I’m back! And 2015: The Year of Badassery

How is this year different from all other years? Facebook and blogs are bursting with commitments to being slimmer, loving with abandon, eating kale, making cash. Photos of women laughing on the beach in the wind or holding a plank abound. There are the warnings about why New Year’s resolutions fail and advice on fool-proofing, from buying apps to taking diet pills. No stranger to resolutions this year, I’ve got nearly a dozen of my own.

In 2015, everyone seems to be fundamentally wanting the same thing: the fierce resolve to get stuff done. So I’d like to join in and proclaim the year 2015 to be the year of badassery. Continue reading I’m back! And 2015: The Year of Badassery

“Believing in Lenin” (from Generations Literary Journal)

Recently, my coming-of-age creative nonfiction piece, “Believing in Lenin,” appeared in an Oakland-based literary journal Generations.” Generations, a Journal of Ideas and Images, publishes original work by emerging and established authors to encourage conversations across the generational gaps. Each issue is dedicated to a theme, Rites of Passage being the current theme – and this issue is jam packed with 150 pages of creativity. Since they are currently in print only, I decided to post the text here. Check them out! 

Believing in LeninImage

In Soviet Union, children were more than just children. They were October’s Kids, in honor of the revolution that stamped out Russian monarchy in 1917, and it was a pretty big deal. Decorated with star-shaped pins with Lenin’s picture as a boy, they sang spirituals like “Lenin is within you and within me” in music class, alongside the tunes about the female deer and the rays of golden sun. And if they were good, they’d be taken on a pilgrimage trip to Moscow, to see Lenin’s body in a glass case.

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Brains on Fire: shushing the creative inner critic

What comes to mind when you think of the word …marketing?

Perhaps a dude in a suit hovers before your mind’s eye, or the mob of flashing web banners and Twitter headlines?

Whatever you thought of, probably you didn’t think of art.

Yet the 2010 book Brains on Fire: Igniting Powerful, Sustainable, Word of Mouth Movements by the self-titled marketing company, challenges the idea that marketing lacks artistry. I’m not talking about PowerPoints by art majors or ad taglines penned by disillusioned writers. I mean art for art’s sake.

To be fair, Brains on Fire is a marketing book – and an innovative one, at that. The authors recommend that we kill slogans and campaigns. Instead, they teach how to grow organizations in a meaningful, organic way by engaging the communities around. And they use the word “passion” a lot. Continue reading Brains on Fire: shushing the creative inner critic